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Hi lovers, that’s around the time. We can finally say goodbye (maybe a good riddance) to 2021 and welcome in 2022. Without a doubt, the end of the year will bring the traditional increases in folx dedicated to becoming more of the person they want to be. It can mean that people are dedicating themselves to the gym, to therapy, to making all of their personal health care appointments, to trying to have a different relationship with their lover, or finally to trying that thing. ‘they grew back and that might bring them joy. It’s all part of a beautiful journey to find yourself and generate happiness – and it can be very overwhelming when trying to navigate on your own.
Fortunately, you don’t have to do this on your own, as there are plenty of ways to support your health and growth. Check out these holistic resources below to help you become the ‘you’ you want to be next year.
Mental health therapy
As a licensed clinician, I place mental health therapy at the tip of the New Year’s iceberg, New You. Desires to change your behavior, thoughts and / or relationships for the better, you can surely benefit from a support person who is committed to your well-being and trained to help you broaden your scope. When it comes to therapy, the most important factor in healing is the fit between you and the therapist. Try it out and see where it goes.
If you want to find a therapist, you can use Therapy for black girls, The National Queer and Trans Therapist of Color Network, Therapy for black men and The LoveLand Foundation (which offers vouchers for free services).
Acupuncture is not an action movie myth or some unattainable fancy treatment that only exists for celebrities. As an ancient traditional Chinese practice, acupuncture involves inserting thin needles into the skin at specific places on the body. The traditional practice is known to be used for pain management and is believed to help reduce stress as well.
When looking for a practitioner, you can ask them if they have taken and passed National Certification Commission for Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine examination, use other people’s references and ask the professional about their process for ensuring cleanliness. Finally, always check with your doctor to make sure you are a candidate for treatment.
Spirituality is unique for each person. The unique belief systems we cultivate are often the result of our experiences, families, communities, and desires for our own future. Going through a transformation may require you to seek spiritual guidance, what that might be like. Some people go to church or the Holy Land, others devote themselves to some kind of study, others may spend more time in nature or in meditation. Taking the time to check in with yourself and find inner balance and peace can be a great asset in moving towards the person you want to be. Independent study, meeting with a group of people, using a church, a religious leader or an elder are all ways to get in touch with
If you’re feeling safe, you can even venture out to various retreats and use some solo or romantic time to get in tune with your spirit, divinity, and / or ancestors. The most important thing is that you take the time to cultivate your spirituality and belief systems, which often focus on morals, values, and personal development.
Another oriental treatment method used in the West is reflexology. Using various pressure points in the feet, this method of treatment is used to support pain management, clear sinuses, relieve headaches, muscle pain, and even asthma. I have personally attended postpartum reflexology for hip pain and even took my smallest child for some gut health help after dealing with acid reflux and it was the one of the first nights we slept through the night.
Usually used in conjunction with other remedies, reflexology offers a unique way to overcome challenges and find connection with the body. Whether you’re in pain, looking to relax, or battling seasonal allergies, try looking Reflexology of America or talk to your community to find a professional near you.
A chiropractor is a non-medical professional who is best known for manipulations of the spine and neck. Although popularized as “bone cracking” doctors, chiropractors work with your body to adjust your appendages and joints into proper alignment. With these adjustments, chiropractors can help relieve tension and joint pain that often leads to headaches, tight jaws, lower back pain and more.
In my own experience, I visited a postpartum chiropractor who helped me realign my pubis (pubic bone area) after having a tough fight with symphysis after carrying and giving birth to a big baby.
As with all professionals, ask for referrals from people you like. You can always ask a practitioner how they track their continuing education, certifications, and whether they belong to professional organizations to ensure care is continuous and regulated. the American Chiropractic Association is another place where you can find information on chiropractors near you.
Whether it is therapy, church, or oriental medicine practice, the journey to a “new you” does not have a one-size-fits-all approach. Your journey will be as unique as you are, and so will your growth and healing.
On the way to a 2022 full of rest, rejuvenation, healing and fulfillment.
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